Sarah Innis of xoJane responds to research suggesting that women find men more sexually attractive when the men do housework:
I know that while my partner wants to live in a clean house, he doesn’t actually want to do the cleaning. I cannot bear to ask him to do chores because, in my experience, a) it sounds like nagging b) it still won’t get done until he is good and ready, which inevitably is long past the time when I am good and ready to see the job completed and c) refer back to “a.”
I remember the pastor who did our premarital counseling telling us we should compete to see which of us could outserve the other.